break ups and the common reasons. DUHZ!!

year 2006 marks alot of break ups among my circle of friends.
if there is getting together, there is sure to be break ups....
forever? ever lasting? - does this really exist.
of course personally i've seen a lot of great matching couples, and i am really happy for them.
but often each of us has a sad story behind every great ending. we will definitely hit a bad patch or experience bad moments in the path of our love life
well, its been almost half a yr since my own break up , and well, im coping.. still living my same boring life. haha.... i wasnt thinking this way until recently. i thought break up was really hurting... like really really pain. but recently the demise of my grandma made me realise break up is just 1/10 fraction of the pain from losing a love one forever. that pain is really really bad...... the kind that causes my water tap t0 keep flowing and flowing and flowing. its like a bad tap leak.
every couple breaks up for relatively few similar reasons:
- character clash
-feelings fade
-third party
-fear of commitment

think these are the few usual break up reasons that each n every of my friend has to take for their break ups.
character clash, some people get together and in the process learn n understand more about the other party. during this process, we can know if we are suitable or not. but if one of the party terms a break up due to character clash when they have already been together for like 5-7 years, that is really a bit duhz.... isnt it obvious enough during early times if two are suitable or not. if you are still in your early teens, i can understand caus you haven experience the difference a working environment can make to you. but if you already reached your 20s , then i think you should be having a clearer head to think clearer. correct me if i m wrong. but isnt this the case??? if you say u never place a r/s close to ur heart to understand if your characters are suitable den there isnt any r/s to speak of.
feelings fade ??? - every r/s starts with a spark somewhere and it is up to the couple to keep the sparks alive. dont expect it to stay alive and not having to do anything about it. it is so stupid. in every r/s , starting is ai qing, when it reached a comfort zone, it gradually becomes gan qing. this is liked a norm for everyone. gan qing is when u really get to know a person already. really love a person for who he or she is. if feelings fade, what is the reason? no more sparks?
3rd party - this is nothing to comment on. both party are at fault. sorry all 3 parties are at fault.
commitment phobia? - this is one general reason GUYS give when they break up with gals. they have too much in their thick skull, they decided they cant face the gals, knowing marriage is on the cards. but HEY, who are u all to tell us whether we want you guys to marry us or not. please this is liked the 21st century. not just because u are good to us, we expect marriage round the corner. there are many factors for marriage and many different reasons for marriage. trust me, we gals are not really that keen to pounce on marriage without thinking also. its like a forever thing you know. marriage is not cheap and so is seperation after that. so just dun base everything on your own thinking. if we want marriage, the most we will is talk about it first. everything can talk. that is one of the reason we have mouth and 2 ears. to Listen!!!

i m not an expert when it comes to relationship.i still read man are from mars, women are from venus. haha. i m still learning.
i have my own problems as well. but hey i want all around me to be happy.
to my recent gal frens who just broke up with their other half, cheer up gals. all are fated. dun pressure yourself. take a short break first. make urself pretty. pamper yourself. after that listen to your heart. see what it says and where it takes you. cry if u have to in the initial stages but after that you will realise its not that you dun wan to cry but instead nothing comes out.
you can call me anytime if you need anyone to talk to. u all got the number.
cheer up babes!